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    Started by Caoilfhoinn| 20 posts

    Somebody raised a good point about this on their Gaydar profile asking, 'So is anybody on this or are we all just leaving the tab open while we do other stuff'..For me, I admit I do leave the tab open quite a lot while looking up other things on the net and check back on it occasionally, unless I spot somebody interesting....Just wondering if we're all a little guilty of this? And have people had any success with Gaydar, friends or relationship wise?

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    10 Aug 2010 @ 10:29

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  • jmcgouran| 53 posts

    yep, it's a default setting for me. now and again (i.e. rarely) i'll get a message so it's not that much of a distraction really!

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    08 Aug 2010 @ 21:50

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    matty11111| 2591 posts

    I leave it running in the background too. As for its utility, well I only use it to make friends. It's a case of searching for a needle in a haystack but I have been fortunate enough to find one or two needles to date.

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    08 Aug 2010 @ 21:56

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    NovaFlare| 285 posts

    I do that a fair bit, and I'll reply to messages if I get any, when i get back (even if it's just to say thanks but no thanks).

    It bugs the bejeezus out of me though when people wander off in the chat room. Not replying instantly to messages is fine, but if I'm chatting to someone, then surely be it's not too much of me to expect to be kept informed if you're wandering off to make the tea, feed the dog, wash the windows, perform CPR on your 90 year old mother, etc.

    Yes, that last one has been used as an excuse before.

    Always speak your mind, even if your voice trembles.

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    08 Aug 2010 @ 23:14

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    dkirl| 713 posts

    i guess if i'm on it i'm on it, rarely do the chat thingy, i tire for it to be honest. but nice when you find genuine people or make friends..

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 00:27

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    Parker South| 1032 posts

    Have given up on gaydar -but yeah I'm a leave the tab open and check back in occasionally kind of person when I do sign in the odd time.

    I met two people off gaydar and one off gaire. I was really young when I met the girl on gaire -we text for two weeks then finally met up and had a couple of dates & an amazing weekend (for what it was at the time) but it was not to be for reasons it's probably best not to go in to, lol.

    Then last year I was looking up profiles on gaydar and I found one that really made me laugh. We emailed back and forth for aaaages -potential relationship sort of stuff- we just completely clicked. And then I finally met her. And in person there was just nothing there...Im going to sound horribly shallow but her picture was most definitely misleading and so was mine probably....Neither of us were physically attracted to each other and it was awful as I guess we'd built up our expectations. Will not be doing that again!!

    Last girl I met off gaydar was a lot more experienced at the whole internet dating thing and pretty much arranged a casual meet up almost immediately. After my last experience I decided it was a good idea. We met up, we had a good chat but again no chemistry. See her out and about the odd time and would always say hello but we're not friends or anything.

    That's when I gave up on gaydar. Plus I think it's a lot easier to meet women in Dublin these days. There's so many out about on the scene in comparison to five years ago. There's also a lot to be said for face to face contact. Heard some TCD professor on the radio saying women make up their minds about potential partners within the first five seconds of meeting them. It takes men ten (can't remember why?).

    I'd be reluctant to meet people off the Internet now with a date/relationship in mind. That's one of the reasons I LOVE QID so much. You get to meet loads of new people and eventually all their friends. There's no pressure or expectations. You just go out have fun make friends -and if something happens it happens and it's an authentic organic experience!


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    09 Aug 2010 @ 01:12

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    azezil| 7096 posts

    5 / 6 years ago it was really good for chatting to and meeting new people, but with the restriction of 10 msgs for guests people just don't bother anymore (or maybe that's just me?). There are so many other free sites out there with unlimited msgs, I'm far more inclined to use those to chat to guys now.

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 10:06

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    Bebs| 4795 posts

    Is anyone using that gaybeau site?

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 10:38

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    Corcach| 4552 posts


    azezil said :

    5 / 6 years ago it was really good for chatting to and meeting new people, but with the restriction of 10 msgs for guests people just don't bother anymore (or maybe that's just me?). There are so many other free sites out there with unlimited msgs, I'm far more inclined to use those to chat to guys now.

     

    The girls one was always retricted, and you had to pay to see XXX photos (not that that bothered me {#Insert smilie}) and we didn't have your X factor thing. I think PS put it best, I think it's a terrible way to meet someone.

     

    As for the original point of this thread. I don't see the problem with having it open in a tab while doing other stuff. Do we really have to devote outselves to one website at a time. I always have 10 tabs open at once.

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 13:29

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    Gary_H| 697 posts


    jmcgouran said :

    yep, it's a default setting for me. now and again (i.e. rarely) i'll get a message so it's not that much of a distraction really!

     

    How do you rarely get messages? {#Insert smilie}

    The world is strange...

     

    Most of the couples I know these days met off there...

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 15:09

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    Aerach| 13363 posts

    Is anyone here an actual paid up member of gaydar? Or are we all guests?

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 15:12

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    Catty Katie| 577 posts


    Gary_H said :


    jmcgouran said :

    yep, it's a default setting for me. now and again (i.e. rarely) i'll get a message so it's not that much of a distraction really!

     

    How do you rarely get messages? {#Insert smilie}

    The world is strange...

     

    Most of the couples I know these days met off there...

    Most couples I know broke up because of gaydar ;)

    fgfgfgfg

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    09 Aug 2010 @ 15:14

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